Ya, i could see a dremel taking awhile..lol
I use a 1 1/2" barrel sanding drum on a die grinder/angle grinder and get some 36 grit to hog it out close to spec, then a 80 grit to finish off to my spec.
To begin with I measure and mark a head pipe gasket with a sharpie to my specs, then bolt it down to the manifold then go to town, just make sure you take your time and keep it ROUND AND SYMETRICAL. You basically bore down till its starts to curve into the ex ports then make a smooth transition with no weird humps or lumps in the way. You can use some smaller porting tools to get down and transition a bit more. Finish off with lighter and lighter sandpaper up to like 220ish, then some maroon scuff pads. You can polish it as nice as you want.
Then take that same gasket and put it on the head pipe and do the same, so they match.
I dont think its that hard to do. Ive done a couple now and It takes me a couple hours to do one up nicely.
Doing it reminds of doing case/cylinder port matching.
Good luck and if your worried about f'ing it up, definitely send it to a pro. Head pipes and manifolds are not cheap..