Out with the old.

McDog

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Midlake Crisis said:
My sympathy and respect to you and your Dad BK. My dad died 2 yrs ago after a 2 year battle with pancreatic cancer. This morning I am sitting with my 39 yr old brother who is on hospice dying of stomach cancer. Aging, disease, and death are terrible things that dont seem real when all is well and we are zipping around on our water scooters. It is good to think about it before it hits, to prioritize life, what is truly meaningful, what lies beyond.
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So sorry brother.
 
Big Kahuna

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Midlake Crisis said:
My sympathy and respect to you and your Dad BK. My dad died 2 yrs ago after a 2 year battle with pancreatic cancer. This morning I am sitting with my 39 yr old brother who is on hospice dying of stomach cancer. Aging, disease, and death are terrible things that dont seem real when all is well and we are zipping around on our water scooters. It is good to think about it before it hits, to prioritize life, what is truly meaningful, what lies beyond.
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oh man, I just saw this...................... Your in my thoughts...............
 
Big Kahuna

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Yesterday I got a call from my sister. She was telling me that my Dad was "non-responsive", they called Ambulance. Afraid it was a stroke. By the time my sister got out there and got back to see him he was responsive. Turned out to be a really severe case of a UTI infection. This is bad for old people............ He went home with antibiotics..........

Yesterday when we thought my dad was having a stroke, I just said a prayer asking that he just be comfortable here or "Above", whichever was to happen, just did not want him to suffer...........
Last wednesday my mom decided to move him back upstarts, for the past 4 weeks he has had to have a sitter for much of the day, then it got to where he had to have one 24 hours. No sense in paying for the room downstairs plus paying for a 24 hour a day sitter................ So, he is back up with "his bride", I think my mom is adjusting to someone being in the apartment with them....... but the biggest thing is he is not calling on the phone asking me to bring my truck to load up his furniture, or him telling my mom he was checking out of this hotel today.......... I know the stress is less for her, as well as us (2 sisters). She got calls where he would get kinda ugly with her. At least we are not having to deal with that now........ He turns 84 tomorrow...................
 
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MarkWalker

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Bringing this thread back. About two weeks ago my wife and I were down in the Bahamas and we got the call that my Dad had a stroke. We rushed home, got to see him for about 2 hours that night. The next day we went in and the medical center is on "medical lockdown" because of the Corona Virus. He has had some bad days, then started to improve. We could only talk to him by Face Time for about 5 minutes per day and got 2 nurses updates per day. Things declined rapidly yesterday. They took some tests and found his lungs filling up and his kidneys are shutting down. I got to go in to his room in person tonight to say goodbye. The Man who has shaped me and helped me through life is laying there incoherent fighting for air. Worst feeling ever. I felt so helpless. You always hear, "don't take your parents for granted" and "they won't be around forever" I'm really feeling that tonight. Rough night . Thanks for reading this.
 
Big Kahuna

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My mom called in Hospice about 2 weeks ago, not really thinking end of life care, but they can come and help out. He has had 24 hour care since last fall. In the past month he has been going downhill. Now, I just hope he goes peacefully, we do not know how long. Days, Weeks............ All he does is sleep now for the most part. barely eating. (Retirement community been on lockdown since March 13th.) A few weeks ago they said myself and my sister could come in as a caregiver. I was in there yesterday to take him a Milkshake. He was asleep the whole time. My sister ordered him this interactive cat she saw that was designed for people with Dementia and Alzheimers. It gives him something to do with his hands. He has been playing with it since he got it Tuesday. I did see him pull it up to his face and snuggle it for a second and then go back to resting. With him not eating, I just do not see him lasting, he has a hard time taking his meds. They have started cutting out some of the ones he was taking. No need at this point. To top this all off, My Sisters Ex Husband was over sunday and stayed with their daughters (Special Needs - Oldest 28 year old, other has Asbergers 24 yrs old) so she could go to Sunday School. Well, he just tested Positive for Covid-19. My Sister has been with my mom twice this week. I have seen and hugged my mom twice. I am not worried about catching it, think I may have had it right after Daytona. But now I am worried for my Sister and my Mom.......... The hits just keep on coming. This may help to explain my thoughts a little on the crap with my Edge.. "Oh Effing Fudge"
 
MarkWalker

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Harrison. My thoughts are with you my friend. Nothing worse than what you are going through. Stay strong.
 
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