Dude, marriage is up and down. We all who are married have been there.
We all here recognize that you are no slouch, that you are a hard worker. Your posts in this thread with its timeline prove it.
Sometimes you cannot win.
Accept it. Don't be resentful. Be happy that someone married you. If my wife didn't lower her expectations, I would not be married.
Just keep your head down, keep working hard, and for the next project work on something that makes her happy.
Respect her and your marriage. It is worth it.
And without taking anything away from that, respect yourself for the good things that you have done, and are doing, and will do in the future:
BTW, your ski looks
oem and minty fresh.