She's the best girl ever

[Vumad]

I bought my ex-wife a nice ring and had to sell my skis to pay for the wedding. Notice I said "ex-wife"...got the ring back in the divorce and pawned it and bought a replacement ski. Never again.

Not judging but selling the skis is a death sentence to a marriage. You have to be yourself. Our culture likes to domesticate and demasculinize men. It leads to problems. We need hobbies, we need goals, we need an outlet. When we give those up for a woman, we place her in the forefront and above all else in our lives. It's important to make the wife a part of our life, but not the center of it. Establishing his early on is healthy for the relationship. Too many guys make an emotional sacrifice they can't sustain for the long haul.

I told my wife before we got married that there will always be money to ride (although I did explain that i do understand there will be periods of a lack up upgrades), and that she will lose if she ever tried to make me choose between my hobbies and her. It's not that I don't love her, but she can't possibly love me if she were to ever expect me to willingly give up such a huge part of my identity.

We've only been married 13 months so please feel free to ignore my advice if my "experience" is insuffient.

 

[swapmeet]

I told my wife before we got married that... she will lose if she ever tried to make me choose between my hobbies and her.

Dude I said the exact same thing! So far it's worked out great. ~5 years....
She hates when I spend money on ____ but she understands that I need that time and the distraction.

Luckily, like you... My wife enjoys participating in most of my hobbies.

 

[HolyDiver]

So this thread is getting good! My fiancé (wow that's weird first time I said that) would never make me get rid of the skis for anything. She knows that it's such an important part.

Friends have come and gone. Hobbies have started and stopped. Toys have been bought and sold. But skis, skies have always been around for the last five years we have been together.

 

[HolyDiver]

I did the same as vumad. I bought a diamond lose and picked out my setting so I got a really good deal compared to what it appraises for.

I'm hoping it will be a wedding gift if not I told her that at the wedding I get all the cards and she can have the gifts lol. We already have a house together and have been living with eachother for four years. So what do we need all that money for besides ski parts. As far as what hull I'll get something sxr bottom deck based.


Ok the vows idea is great and I think ill do it as a wedding prank type idea. I was just in my buddies wedding and they were putting a note they wrote to each other in a wooden box. There supposed to open the box on there one year anniversary to read what they wrote. Each person was to hammer a finish nail in the lid (holes were or drilled for the ladies). After she taps her nail in he pulls out a nail gun from behind the alter and starts sealing it shut lol

So what have been all of your wedding jokes and gags.

 

[Vumad]

My fiancé (wow that's weird first time I said that)

I called Lisa "my funny French word" for about 8 months. New words are weird. It's the same feeling all over again when you start saying wife.

 

[iangdesign]

I totally agree with you Vumad...that was just the tip of the iceberg...that marriage had a Titantic like fate from the get go. We were young and knew no better. Lesson learned and moved on from. I am in no way jaded from it, but like you stated. I have been skiing since I was 10, skis are a part of me. Literally, I have a jet ski-ish tatto on my left leg.

Seems like all will go with @HolyDiver though and once again congrats! I hope you can get a sweet ski with all that cash. What a great wedding present that would be!

 

[speedysprocket]

Congrats on the engagement. I get married Saturday. Cake topper is supposed to be here today. Should be the world's smallest Foot Rocket!

 

[hugh jair]

congrats to you both, my better half and I always joked around that you cant live in a ring so I'd always reply with " i know you're tastes, they aint cheap so you can have a ring or a house...now we live happily in a gorgeous home along the river in the mountains...heck by now its all 50/50 anyway so i think the money was spent more wisely than on a ring...which, as she admits, she'd likely loose anyway ha ha ha.

i whole heartedly concur on the continuing to be yourself, it works for both parties, i always try to involve her in my hobby but if she has no interest it doesnt mean i need to give up said hobby...its one of the many reasons i love her so much, there have been many morning where i smell waffle and bacon and she pours me coffee and says " you seem like a cranky Fawker lately, i got the kids taken care of, you go for a ski with the boys"... has there ever been sweeter words uttered?? i think not

 

[HolyDiver]

Thanks everyone!

Now she's off onto the wedding kick looking for venues and all that good stuff. I told her she can do anything she wants as long as we can cater some BBQ.

 

[speedysprocket]

Careful what you tell her... My girl went crazy buying knink-knacks left and right. She bought stuff she didn't even know what to do with because it "was just too cute"!...

 

[700Pirate]

I got married last December. My wife is into Freeride. I thought a SJ with maybe holds and a pole rope would be the ticket but now she is pushing me for a EME micro. She figures it looks cute and even more so that it ships in its own ups box.

 

[Dools]

No no no.... buy her the biggest (fake) diamond ring of her dreams. Then use the money you would have spent on a real diamond to buy yourself a hull.

Wise words...someday if she ever has value of the ring appraised -- it's already over.

-Dools

 

[WILKEY]

Alex that cake is sweet!!!!! Save me a bite of Jamie's ass hahahaha

 

[makejetskiinggreatagain]

you should do a destination wedding. Our wedding ceremony on the beach in maui cost us a whole 300 bucks. we were already going there for our honeymoon. one of the cheapest venues local to us wanted 10K. my bro spent over 25k on his wedding night, and then couldn't even enjoy it because he spent the whole night walking around and thanking all 200 guests for coming. marriage is great. weddings are torture.

 

[JHD]

^^^ wise man

 

[WILKEY]

Ha I spent a total of 1g on our wedding. No way in hell would I spend over that. If your wife makes.you spend more then you might want to just eject ASAP lol

 

[Vumad]

My wife has been wearing her engagement ring every day religiously for just over 2 years. That's about $3/day. By 10 years, it'll be $0.70/day. 30 years will be less than a quarter a day. It makes her very happy. I've gotten pictures and videos of the roof of her car when the sunlight hits he diamond and reflects onto the roof. It's not that bad of an investment.

 

[WILKEY]

^^ lol that's awesome.

 

[700Pirate]

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[Vumad]

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I bought a loose diamond for $2200 and had it mounted in a white gold Tiffany band for $300.

For the wedding ring we bought 2 matching wraps and had them soldered together for less than $1000.

$3500 won't pay but for maybe half of one of those items, but I guess plenty of people pay $6000-12000, since jewelry stores rape people.

I don't understand it, but it makes her happy.