So I spent a couple hours trying to bend the kickstand to hold up the pole and it's not gonna happen. I was able to grind it down so it extended farther under the pole, but the notch in the rn pole just wasn't angled enough to catch the kickstand. When it did, the weight of the pole just pushed it out of the way. I think I could have ground on the pole some to make it catch better but I would have had to take the pole off and I'm not ready to do that.
So I ended up putting a small screw into the pole and it rests on the kickstand. Right now it supports the weight of the pole, but if you were to put any force on it, it would rip right out. I'll re-do it if I ever take the pole off and put a bigger and deeper screw in so it can hold up to some abuse. The kickstand works, it swings in and out of place so I'm happy with it for now.