the trivial complaints thread
- Thread starter Grouper
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- Texas
Seems like you should've said something at 15 lbs gained. But I feel for ya..I couldn't deal with that. Marriage isn't a reason to let yourself go!
Ducky
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- Charlotte, NC
And such a hard topic to bring up. Even if you do it in the most sensitive, endearing manner....your a$$ is grass.
Peter123
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- Houston, TX
Right after we got married, it was 15 lbs. After the first kid it was 30 pounds. Second kid 50 pounds. It's hard to put them on a diet when they are pregnant. Then it became an issue where I got sick of the fights and being the bad guy when I brought up the weight issue.
Right before marriage and then with the second kid who added that other 20.
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JM781 Big Bore
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So true, but it happens all the time to both men and women. My wife and I will be somewhere and see some plump folks or see them on TV and she'll turn to me and ask "What if that happened to me". I'll just answer "we'd be done". I am 100% serious and she knows it. Obviously if she got sick or something awful happened to her that caused the weight gain, that's a different story. But if she got porky from sitting on the couch drinking wine and eating ice cream and never exercising...see ya!!
Big Kahuna
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- Tuscaloosa, AL
What the Frack happened to "For Richer, or Poorer, Sickness etc etc etc........."......... You Fell in love with a person. Not a size. Hey Peter. I see a Happy girl in the first picture. I see a Beautiful Happy Woman in the second.............
Ducky
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- Charlotte, NC
I agree with what you are saying, but physical attraction is also very important to me.
SXIPro
JM781 Big Bore
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- Here on the 'X' mostly
I fell in love with an active, energetic, fitness minded person. Those are the traits that drew me to her from day one. If my wife got porky but was still hitting the gym hard and maintaining a healthy diet (I hate the word diet, by the way), that's a different story. If she just got complacent and lazy and ate garbage all day, that's completely different.
What if I fell in love with a 'person' who was sweet, supportive, funny and upbeat, and then she became the wicked biotch of the West. She'd be a totally different person than the one I fell in love with, yes? Just like in the scenario I described above.
Peter123
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- Houston, TX
Not to worry, I'm not going anywhere. She is a nice, good person who is a good mother and brings home a fat paycheck. I'd take a sweet and loving porker over a jealous mean and materialistic workout queen, when you're talking "rest of your life," any day.
Well, that's not true, I do go from Google images to the shower to reglaze the tile fairly often now.
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- South Florida
If your wife sees this you are in for one heck of a fight. I would recommend some counciling For you both.
Quinc
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- California
Gave my wife a belly chain on our wedding day. Told her if it ever breaks...
j/k =)
j/k =)
Quinc
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- California
I would get her to join a crossfit gym. Maybe even do it "together" Yes boo x-fit.. But for whatever reason woman find it very motivating and enjoy going.
Big Kahuna
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- Tuscaloosa, AL
Bwaaahaahahahaahahahaahahahahaahaha
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- Texas
that blows. She looks good. You should quickly get as fat as her then suggest y'all work together to lose weight.
swapmeet
Brotastic
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- Arlington TX
I focused for awhile about my wife's post baby weight. But I realized me bugging her about it does way more damage than me dealing with it. She doesn't like the way she looks, last thing she needs is me giving her a complex. It's hard to get any lovin if your wife doesn't feel sexy, or thinks you don't find her attractive. And concerning the "lose it or I'm leaving" statement, no way man, especially after having kids. My family is worth waaaaaay more than having a hot chick on my arm.
Quick story (sorry no gifs, finding them sucks on my iPad)
So my buddy responded to his GF / gonna be wife on FB one day when she posted a pic when she was 17, (she's early 20's now I think) and that she wanted to look like that again (she's a little bigger now but not unattractive) he said.... (This is the best response ever IMO...)
"I think you're beautiful babe, I'll go to the gym with you whenever you want."
And I was like "hoooooooleeeeeeeeshhhhhhit that's genius"
They're a good couple I think so obviously your situation may vary, but that's pretty much the only thing you can say... Unless you're an asshole.
"I love you regardless, but if you want to go workout, I'm down."
/rant from a 37y/o dad of two /semi pro shower glazer.
Quick story (sorry no gifs, finding them sucks on my iPad)
So my buddy responded to his GF / gonna be wife on FB one day when she posted a pic when she was 17, (she's early 20's now I think) and that she wanted to look like that again (she's a little bigger now but not unattractive) he said.... (This is the best response ever IMO...)
"I think you're beautiful babe, I'll go to the gym with you whenever you want."
And I was like "hoooooooleeeeeeeeshhhhhhit that's genius"
They're a good couple I think so obviously your situation may vary, but that's pretty much the only thing you can say... Unless you're an asshole.
"I love you regardless, but if you want to go workout, I'm down."
/rant from a 37y/o dad of two /semi pro shower glazer.
DAG
Yes, my balls tickled from that landing
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- Charlotte, NC
My girls dragging me to the gym, this is bullpoop lol
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- Texas
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- upstate new York
transparency is the best prevention for arguments. My wife told me she thought I looked a bit thick a few years ago. I took it as constructive criticism and I lost the weight. About 40 lbs worth.
on the other hand, if I said the same thing to her she would probably get mad lol. But she would get over it eventually and understand that I was trying to be helpful and not mean.
